The American Dialect Society nominated the word adulting as 2015’s most creative construction. Adulting has been defined as acting in a responsible, grown-up fashion and is often used in social media posts when talking about doing adult tasks.
This jokey way of describing one’s engagement in adult behaviors – whether that is doing your own taxes, buying your first lawn mower, staying in on a Friday, being someone’s boss or getting super pumped about home appliances—can help millennials acknowledge and/or make fun of and/or come to grips with that transition (or how late they are to it). Katie Steinmetz, Time Magazine
Aging – physical maturity – is inevitable. It is a natural process that happens to all of us. There are things that we can do to speed up or slow down the process, but ultimately we all continue maturing physically with no effort or thought. Emotional maturity is another matter altogether. It does not just happen naturally. It requires deliberateness, practice and intentionality.
We all recognize the signs of physical maturity like gray hair, wrinkles, and age spots. Signs of emotional maturity are less obvious. Yet these are often signs people look for when hiring employees or when choosing friends or spouses . Some examples include:
Finishing tasks and following through on commitments.
Having a humble attitude, not having to draw attention to oneself.
Making decisions based on character and values instead of feelings.
Being grateful, generous, and content (the opposite of “first world problem” complaints).
Thinking of other people’s needs and desires along with one’s own.
Having the attitude of a learner, one who seeks wisdom and does not always have to be right.
Regulating emotions well and remaining calm instead of “getting their knickers in a twist”.
Setting healthy boundaries in relationships.
Not getting stuck living in the past either with regrets or nostalgia.
Avoiding obsessing about the future or being worried about all the “what ifs” that might happen – planning for the future but enjoying today.
Apologizing when needed without defensiveness and forgiving others when needed.
Being flexible when things don’t go one’s way and plans need to be adjusted.
Not having to control everything.
Accepting responsibility when something goes wrong as a result of one’s action or decision instead of blaming others and/or making excuses.
Maturity is born of responsibility. You cannot be mentally or emotionally healthy if you are irresponsible. People with maturity understand a great truth; they understand that life is difficult. In being able to accept this fact about life, mature people learn to handle life in all of its difficulties, not expecting it to be different. They have learned to accept that not everything in life is going to be their way, show up in the way they thought it would and nor will the world change on its axis to make them happier. Mature people know for any change to happen it has to come from within themselves…when the choice is made to fully develop and live the attitudes and principles of a matured person…maturity is a choice for everyone. The more you value who you are and what you have to offer, the more responsible you will be in taking care of yourself, your finances, your time, and your personal life. You can choose to live as a mature person. You can choose to live consciously with established principles and attitudes. Sherrie Campbell, psychologist
By the way, I am still working on a lot of these myself – I imagine you all can find at least a couple that you could do better with. One way to know which ones those are is to read the list again and see which ones make you uncomfortable. I suggest focusing on those, being mindful of and intentional about practicing those until they become habit.
10 Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.11 Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord. 12 Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. 13 Share with the Lord’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality.14 Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. 15 Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. 16 Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited.17 Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. 18 If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Romans 12